So as I sit and read the posts in the groups I belong to, something irritates me everytime I read it. It is this "fluff" nonsense. It may not be the way you believe, but that doesn't make it wrong. I believe that would be one of the points of Wiccan. This "fluff" is a good place to start. No it's not all perfect, but....ahhhhh. Some of these "fluff" books I hold dear to my heart because they got me where I am. Then again some of the books I hear everyone rave about I really don't like. I don't think everything out there is right, not by any means, but....god I'm so frustrated with this I can't hold a single thought. We all know books can be made up bullshit! I can think of one book inperticular, that I think is complete and total BS! Yet my Dad believes it with his entire being. I take what I can from every book I read. MOST BOOKS HAVE A LITTLE SOMETHING TO TAKE FROM THEM. Even if it's a line or a reference to another book. Me personally I love Scott Cunningham! But I have a library of....(hang on I gotta count)...70 books on Wicca. And no I have not read them all cover to cover. But I have read parts or most of all of them. Some of them I find fantastic. Some of them I flipped through and found something that caught my eye. Then again maybe it's the part of me that refuses to riducle other peoples work. Even the Bible has some good stories, and some good points. I may beleive it's a work of fiction, but I won't deny it it's good points. This "fluff" is bringing new people to Wicca, guess what! That's less people to tell us we're going to hell! It angers me to ne extent when some one says "You're not a real Wiccan." If it's what they believe in what makes them different? I'll tell you. They've not been studying as long as you! So no they don't understand this, they've got that wrong. So you TEACH not ridicule. I'm past people telling me I'm not because I've never been in a coven. If that is your opinion: GOOD! Keep it to yourself if your just gonna be rude. Some people might live where it's impossible to join a coven because there aren't any, it's to far to drive, or you have kids and your polite enough to know that you can't be depended on. Shit maybe you have trust issues! Now I see some of the nicest people on the posts and generally that's what it is. But see what one comment sends me into.

AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are so many different views on how to be a "proper" Wiccan, in all honesty it reminds me of a Catholic telling a Baptist they are going to hell. It all boils down to the same thing. That's what turned me from Christianity in the first place. I've found my place in Wiccan now, and I don't see me turning away because of this. I'm just saying don't be so hard. Don't yell because a "fluffy" has it wrong. If they irritate you that much ignore the post or send them to me. I don't have the answers, but I'll direct them to someone who will. Someone who will be willing to help not ridicule. And for goodness sakes don't be so mean to one another.

Ok I feel better now that I've ranted.

Blessed Be.

Ok let me make this clear this did not happen on this site!  With that said I have to say I'm so confused and feeling bad.  I'm on myspace too, well I've been yelled at for calling myself Wiccan.  He said that I've never been been in a coven, I've not been studying long enough, and that I'm just a poser.  Now I've never been in a coven, I have trust issues.  Now as for how long I've been studying, that's kinda complicated.  My mom is Wiccan and kept it hidden from us, but Wiccan teachings slipped through.  She taught us to love and respect nature, that everyone is the same, she just kept the relgion out of our raising.  She wanted us to make our own decsion.  I first found Wiccan in high school, but I brought home a book and mom found it and freaked out.  She later told me there was something wrong with the book, that specfic book, not what was in it.  I never forgot what I read in high school.  Last year I was feeling spiritually lost and turned back to Wiccan.

Wicca felt right to me.  It did in high school and it does now.  Am I wrong?  Should I not call myself Wiccan.  Alot of the time I say I'm studying Wiccan, but if asked what I believe I say Wiccan.  Really that hurt.  I feel the goddess and god around me, does it make me less of a Wiccan because of my short comings.  Everyone has short comings, mine are my trust issues and I've not had the pleasure of studying Wiccan for years.  I just want to know if I am wrong.

Hello,

My name is Sharra.  I live with my boyfriend of 6 years, James, and our two sons.  I'm 25 long with my significant other, our boys are 2 and 4.  We share our house with 10 cats, and a parade of friends that come and go.  I am new to Wicca in some respects, not in others.  My mother is Wicca and successfully hid it from my siblings and me for our childhood.  When I showed intrest she told me she was.  She raised us with a lot of Wiccan ideas and values, but kept the relgion out of it.  My father is a southern baptist and my grandmother is a Jehovah's Witness, that always gets a laugh from people.  So I'm rambling.  I am new a lot of things in Wicca.  I start reading and my head starts spinning and I get confused, but this feels right to me.  And I've been looking.  For a long time I felt spirtually lost.  There was a piece of me missing almost, I could feel the stronger powers around me, but could find them.  When I found Wicca it felt right to me.  (Maybe that's my mom's influence.)

I have plenty of questions, and have discovered that there are many different answers for most of them.  Like do I really have to join a coven?  I've heard no, I've heard yes.  Honestly I don't like the idea, but because in my understanding to be in a coven you need trust and dependability.  Trust I have to much of and it's got me in trouble on more than one occasion.  So I've become a little wary of letting myself trust people.  As for being dependable, my life doesn't allow for that.  I need babysitters, who knows when James will have to work, if my car will be working, & gods forbid I need to get something who knows when we'll have money.  It just seems impossible for me join a coven.  Then again maybe they aren't as strict as I'm imagining.  I rambled again, excuse me.  As I was saying I have lots os questions and want to learn.

I want to make friends, I want to learn, I would like to meet someone that is willing to help me a little when I'm feeling dizzy when information conflicts and when I'm on overload.  A friend so I don't feel so alone in Wicca.  Although James is studying too, we are both new and he expects me to be able to explain it all.  And we all know I know everythig (catch the sarcasm).  So I hope to hear from some one.  Thank you for your time.

Lots of Love,

Sharra